One of the conclusions of the recent National Study on Youth and Religion in American was that “the single most important social influence on the religious and spiritual lives of adolescents is their parents. Other close adults have influence as well.” (This is the largest most intensive study ever done on the religion of America’s teens) The sermon synopsis that follows is designed to help the youth leader teach parents about the tremendous influence they have on their children in regard to their faith in God.
Parents--Show Up
Scripture reading: Hebrews 11:23-27
Big Idea: Parents have the greatest impact and influence on the lives of children and young people.
Intro:
Use either statistical information or a human interest story to show the problems that the American teenager is facing. Then ask, “What’s wrong in America?”
"Lousy parents. There's simply no one at home teaching them right from wrong." (Director of a youth detention center on the one thing in common his detainees have)
"We've been raising kids to do just what they are doing right now, and everybody's running around surprised" (from a gang intervention specialist)
One student wrote:
“I am your child. You have brought me into this world and raised me to what I am today. If I am not what I should be, please do not be to harsh with me for I am your product. My actions advertise the quality standards of home.
"You say that you love me and yet it has been years since you put your arms about me at bedtime and with tears in your eyes asked your heavenly father to watch over me as I slept. You seem to be more interested in my school grades than in the condition of my eternal soul. You give me the impression that it is better to be popular than to be pure. Better to impress people than be respected.
"So the next time you feel like throwing up your hands and saying 'I just can't do a thing with you' please remember you have had the opportunity to influence me since I was born. And the Bible says ‘train up a child in the way he should go......”
I. The Fact of Parental Influence
As a parent, I will influence my children to live for God or to live for Satan. Many of the behavior patterns that you are portraying your children are picking up. That can be frightening or reassuring. What would you do if you only had your children for 3 or 4 years? Moses’ mother only had him for a few years, then for the next 37 years, Moses was "learned in all the wisdom of the Egyptians" (Acts 7:22)
The Egyptian culture was wicked and ungodly. There was no room for a personal, omnipotent God in their thinking. Moses was in this environment for 37 years. He had a chance to be a great leader in Egypt. Yet he chose to go with the people of God. What made the difference in Moses' life?
Jochebed instilled in Moses a love and respect for God that the world could not choke. We can influence our kids to serve the Lord.
Illustration: Certain fish teachers had difficulty teaching their pupils to walk straight. Every Sunday all these little crabs would nod earnestly, practice faithfully and promise solemnly not to walk sideways even once the entire coming week. But on their return to Sunday school the next Sunday, alas! They were walking just as crooked as ever. The teachers took a brief refresher course in pedagogy, hoping to pick up some special foolproof techniques. But a perfect whale of a fish arose and said, "Ladies and gentlemen, your case is a hopeless one; for you seem to forget that the minute your little crabs get home, it is only natural for them to copy their own parents and walk exactly as they walk for the next six days.”
A recent Gallup poll indicated that parents rank far ahead of any other group as role models.
Never underestimate the power of home life. Give us better homes and we will have a better America.
“The family revolution (higher divorce rates, single parent homes, working moms) is the greatest single cause of the decline in student achievement during the last 20 years. It is not better teachers, texts, or curriculum that our children need most; it is better childhoods, and we will never see lasting school reform until we see parent reform.”
(Samual Sava, director of National Association of Elementary School Principals, in the Wall Street Journal)
II. Example of Parental Influence
What did Moses' parents instill in him?
A. Confidence in God v. 23 "by faith Moses’ parents” (NIV)
This couple believed that God had given them this child. They also believed that God would take care of the child. They instilled that same faith in Moses. (v. 24 “by faith Moses”) When it became impossible to hide the child in the house, their faith was severely tested. But it was their faith in God that sustained them. Jochebed knew that God was in control. Parents should and can instill faith in God into the lives of their children.
As Paul told Timothy:
“I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also.” (2 Tim 1:5)
B. Committed to God’s purpose for Moses’ life
v. 23 "saw he was no ordinary child” (NIV)
This couple believed that God intended to do some great thing through their child. Consequently, they had their priorities right. They were more concerned that Moses make it in the kingdom of God rather than the kingdom of Egypt. It is possible they even prayed and asked God to use Moses to deliver them from Egypt. Sometimes our children do not become spiritual giants because we do not expect them to become spiritual giants. If it comes to a choice, I would rather my children make an impact on the kingdom of God, than have all the honors of the world. I am not implying that you can't have both, it is just more important that I excel with spiritual things. This couple felt their son was destined to be used by God. We need to instill a sense of destiny into this generation. God is going to use them in the last great outpouring that will take place on earth. “Your sons and daughters will prophesy.” (Joel 2:28, 29)
Are you expecting God to use your child? The youth of America are the hope of America.
Moms --care enough about your children and the youth around him/her to instill in them a sense of divine destiny!
What about those kids whose parents are not Christians? They need an adult role model. They need someone to show them the way. They need someone to believe in them. They need someone who believes that God has a purpose for their lives.
U.S. News & World Report had an article several years ago on gangs. One person who was interviewed stated: “Youth need caring adults who believe in them and show them what it means to be a man.” (John Trevino who befriended a gang member Rudy Gonzalez --life was totally changed)
Barbara Schneider and David Stevenson conducted extensive research into today’s adolescents. As a result of their research they wrote, “What parents consider important for an adolescent do to—whether it is getting good grades, taking challenging courses, or apply to a competitive college—builds an orientation toward the future. In families where these messages are clearly and consistently communicated through family discussions and parental actions, adolescents are more likely to share their parents’ sense of what is important.” (Barbara Schneider and David Stevenson, The Ambitious Generation (New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 1999), 147.
Research done at the University of California at San Francisco sought to determine why some young people are destroyed by the deficits of their home environment while others seem to thrive under the same set of circumstances. Earl Palmer reviewed those studies and uncovered one constant factor among the teens that stayed strong, “They all experienced the non-exploitive interest, care and support of at least one adult during their childhood years—a parent or grandparent, uncle or aunt, older brother or sister, coach or teacher, pastor or youth leader—an adult with no hidden agenda or exploitive design on the youngster.” (Earl Palmer, “Perspective,” Youthworker (Spring 1992) : 4.
C. Courage to do what was right
(v. 23 "not afraid of the king’s edict")
What Moses parents’ did was illegal, but it was right. It took courage to stand up for what was right. They demonstrated a boldness that few parents demonstrate. They were not afraid to go against the crowd. They had moral backbone. As a result Moses had courage to stand up for God. (v. 27 “he did not fear the king’s anger”) “We teach what we know, we reproduce what we are”
Bold parents produce bold children. Give us godly moms with a holy boldness and courage to stand up against those forces that are seeking to destroy today’s generation. Moms who choose to do the right thing although it is not the popular thing. Give us godly fathers who will boldly but lovingly say, “As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.” Give us godly fathers who will show their children what it means to be a man of God.
Action Point: Close the service by having parents pray for their students and inviting other adults to pray for those students whose parents are not in church. |